When you’re on empty…
When you have nothing else to give what do you do? I mean when you’re on empty, this means there’s nothing to take, right? So then why do people keep expecting you to give them something (whatever it is) if you’re at zero? Where do they want you to get this something from? Do you pull it from within, the portion reserved for yourself? Of course, that’s what you do because you know they want it all!
But it has to stop.
I mean why are they coming for you, is there a sign waving them up to your curb? Do they have no place else to go? The answer to this question is part of the reason why you could be running on fumes. You have no more gas to carry others.
Sure, there are those who thrive on being needed, but that’s another blog post about balance. But for those who are tired, and are feeling the itch to change this thing; you’re probably starting to see things differently. You need a change because the car is in park and no longer wants to move. Or worse, no longer can. Everybody wants something but nobody’s giving anything. It’s enough to make you feel some-kind-of-way.
If you are here, then you need to readjust. Especially, if these people come for your help when they can clearly SEE you have nothing left to give them? Is this you? The giver who keeps on doing God’s job? WHY?
I’ll tell you why. People come because they expect you to find something to give them because you always do. Some way, somehow you fix it for them and they run along. Only to cycle back around as the need arises. Until you get tired. This is the point where you turn and realize it’s time to rework this thing. Because this is no longer working for you. It might be great for them but you are depleted when you say, “I’m done.”
In this season, I’ve found that people are getting tired of the takers in life and are now doing something about it.
The givers have changed how they respond to the leeches. They no longer feed them. The givers have learned to let them go because they are woke on the fact, they could never give people like this enough. Takers don’t know how to give. Because takers are never satisfied. They will take you for everything you’ve got if you let them.
God did not set us up to be taken advantage of. In all of His love and grace, He knows when to tell us no. It’s time to mimic our Father and practice using the word no.
It won’t be easy at first. But you will ask yourself after a while, Why didn’t I do this a long time ago. #TakeItFromMe #NoIsYourFriend #GiveYourselfPermission #MakeRoomForTheRealYes’s
Colossians 4:6 (NIV) Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.