Alana

As a single mother of three, my kids are always saying that something is itching on them. Sometimes it’s their hair, legs, or their feet depending on the day, they are always complaining about some particular itch. Don’t get me wrong, I itch as well sometimes. But right now I want to talk about that itch that us as single Saved and living holy Christian women seem to not want to talk about.

We feel as though we can’t keep it real. See this is when we put on the masks – as if everything is okay. “Oh no, I am not tempted”. “I do not desire that.” Or “I don’t crave that man!” But on the inside… every part of you is saying “My God, look at him!” Look at his shoulders and those muscles. Man, he is fine…and then the itch begins. You get the itch in the midnight hour. I’m not talking about a regular itch, but the itch of the flesh. You know what I am talking about ladies, that itch that calls you. The itch that causes you to crave the touch of his hand – the hand that can give you the satisfaction that you desire.

It’s funny because I can hear my pastor saying “Come on ladies, let’s keep it real”. I’m talking about the itch that wants to be soothed physically by that man that you saw the other day, or by your ex. You know the itch that we can’t have physically soothed because we’re saved, sanctified and not married.

So what does a Christian single woman do who is trying to live holy? From the words of Alana Riley I can only tell you what I have done and still striving to do. It was really hard coming from being married for almost ten years and divorced for one and a half. I had the itch all the time. Some days were harder then the others. One day I became vulnerable. I was not in the place where I was supposed to be. I wasn’t praying like I should have been. I wasn’t in constant communion with God. I hadn’t trust God completely for myself. I am not going to lie to you. Yes, I gave over to my itch.

Every time it would happen another piece of me was taken. That’s how bad I felt afterwards, I felt worthless like a piece of meat because in his eyes that’s all I was. I had to make up in my mind that I wanted God more then my itch. He became my number one priority. That took me to the place of reaching and getting into my word, communicating with God daily. I didn’t allow myself to get into situations that would help me to fall. I cut off all past relationships that would not benefit me. I repented to God and I did not look back at the mistake I allowed that itch to get me into. I even changed my numbers. Sometimes it takes drastic measures! Come on now…

I meditate on Psalms 119:16 daily… thy word have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against thee. When my mind gets to wandering on the itch I say 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 – For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Jesus Christ. Once you get to that place in God in a relationship. It gets easier. I’m not saying the itch will never come back. But when it does, you can stand on his word and the relationship you have with your father. That alone will make you not want to sin against Him.
Until next time…
Captured In Him
Alana